When You Turn Up, Life Turns Too

We explore the quiet discipline of showing up, from recording with a cold to sitting through a three-day summit and finding courage in awkward networking. Stories of intuition and clear career choices show how presence builds confidence and clarity.

• why showing up builds trust with yourself
• group learning and the risk of missing moments
• lessons from a three-day summit and tired chairs
• posture on sitting bones for presence and breath
• easing into networking through repetition
• intuition guiding job choices and timing
• choosing fit over fear and saying no early
• community invite and next steps

Don’t forget Soltec Soul is officially open today. Come and join us in that group. You can find it on Facebook and there is a free gift in there for anyone joining in December

Transcript

Choosing To Show Up Sick

Why Attendance Shapes Growth

Lessons From A Three-Day Summit

Sitting Bones, Posture, And Presence

Making Peace With Networking

Trusting Intuition In Careers

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Hey hey hey everyone welcome to Zoetic Chat with me Jan Mayfield today is all about showing up I'm showing up here today and you will hear that I have a cold I have a cold but I my body feels fine so I'm body I'm good mind I'm good spirit I'm good breathing not so good today but I thought I would show up now I want to talk about showing up not me you maybe or your friend or someone else because it is so so very important to show up if you're part of something if you've committed to something and you a lot of people allow life to take over and that means you're not showing up it means you're not doing what you should be doing what you set out to do sometimes you just have to make that space to show up I've made the space today to show up I should have recorded this last week and I didn't show up for it but I don't I knew in my mind I didn't need to post it today so it's worse today because I can't breathe through my nose so I'm showing up so I thought no I'm still going to do it and sometimes you need to show up because let's just say for example if you're part of a group and you don't show up you don't know what might have happened in that group you don't know what you might have learned not just from the teacher or the coach or the mentor from someone else in that group there's always a learning there's always an experience and there's always someone that has the same as you or similar and they show up how can they show up and you don't what do you think the answer to that is do you allow overwhelmed to take over that it's easier to do something else than show up but in the long run in the long term not showing up will only harm you and when I say harm you of course I don't really mean physically mentally it will harm you because your whole psyche won't know where it is you commit to do something and then you stop or you come up you commit and you attend one or two classes or you tell your mentor that you don't need them what is it that stops you showing up it's easy isn't it to not sometimes but if you realize that what's on the other side of showing up is so much better than staying away so let's say for example you're not feeling too good but you've got a whole load of stuff going on if you show up then the stuff that you've got going on will seem easier after you've shown up because there will be something within that showing up that's going to help you so I say to you today show up show up be that person that turns up be that person that in a couple of weeks says oh I'm so glad I came I'm so glad I showed up I'm so glad and you will say that and last weekend I showed up to a three day summit event it was nothing to do with my spiritual path per se but it was to do with my own growth so I showed up had to leave home at about six o'clock in the morning and then do a whole day until six o'clock at night when I first got there the next day we started at half past seven again until six o'clock and the next day I didn't have to go until nine but I stayed until six o'clock again you know to think everyone was sitting there I mean the chairs had got lovely padding on but after three days of sitting in the same position that padding felt really thin and so many of us were standing up like we were still bent and our cockices were really hurting and then I remembered when I used to do yoga and I should still do it and maybe this is my calling to go back when I used to do yoga and you used to sit in a certain way or be in a certain position you used to pull your bum cheeks basically apart and sit and I can't remember I think she used to say your sick bones S I C or would it be S I K bones well I didn't sit there and pull them apart so everyone could see but I did manu manoeuvre myself so I wasn't sitting on my cockyx wow what a difference and I'm starting to sit like that now because by sitting like that your back's straight my back is straight when I sit on my what I think is my sick bones not my cockyx you want to try it pull your bum cheeks apart stick your bump out behind you and sit on that bit there and your back is straight I you know I always looked at yoga people and thought why is your back so straight and I'm round shouldered well I'm not now because I've pulled out my sick bones so that was something that I learned I met people way way out of my comfort zone networking is not my thing I've tried doing it many many times and I don't know I just I just don't get it I I just don't I know it introduces you to people I know the theory of it and it's just me it's just doesn't happen for me maybe it doesn't happen in the way that I think it should but by the last day that we were there I was talking to more people and then they recognized you being there and you them and it's like how you getting on but I think that first day of networking can be cruel some people love it. I know that I said to one lady I says I'm not very good at networking she's all keep doing it you'll be fine and it's true the more I keep doing it the world I will be fine so I am actually going to look for a networking group in Birmingham and go and see what I'm like I might run I might run at the door but I don't know I think I'm gonna show up for that so I'll have a look excuse me I'll have a look where there is one of those maybe for the new year now so that's what I wanted to talk about today just to share that showing up I wanted to share something that happened as well with so a few weeks ago might be a couple of months ago now it's more than that I kept getting this message in my head of a name but I knew it was associated with a friend's husband anyway I thought what's that and they said spirit said to me job it's a job with this name attached to it and that is for the person and I think the person had either left a job or it wasn't suitable then they got numerous jobs and then they got dropped from them as well and I thought well they're not right for them anyway anyway I was at their house yesterday and he said to me do you remember what you said to me about the job and I said yeah I was in Costa Coffee and I told you I told you your next job would be connected with the name Taylor I told him and I could repeat it because I remembered it because I went for a while and I thought oh I'm not telling him that because I don't know why I just thought well no there's no need anyway I did and he has a new job and he he is working for someone called Taylor the actual truth of it is it's Tyler but spelt Taylor and everybody calls them Taylor so that's what I heard Taylor so there you go you know these things come to fruition eventually yeah they really do come to fruition there was something else I was going to tell you as well about I'm sure she won't mind me reading this out oh I can't can I access it while I'm on my phone someone sent me a message no I think I ought to ask permission before I br I read that out although you don't know who it is I need permission but anyway basically what this lady was saying was that she sent me a message it was a thank you but she did the all the hard work you know sometimes you just initiate things for people don't you anyway she'd gone for a job she'd been looking for a job she went for a job she got the job she went on the day and she realized it wasn't for her and the people and the job weren't for her so she thanked them and said it wasn't for her and she's not been back since but why is that important because she would never have done that a few years ago she would have just either not gone to the interview or not gone she would have not left the old job but she said because she'd been in some of my groups because she'd heard me speaking you know in a positive way help yourself to help yourself all that kind of stuff it had given her the the courage to be able to say that to the job and she was so so proud of herself I'll ask her if I can read what she said because I don't believe that we should unless we've got permission I'll ask her and I'll read it out for you next week but it just goes to show that you never know what's growing inside you you never know what you're changing and you never know how you're really really going to react to things in your life she never knew any of that she just thought she was going to a new job but well done you I say that I'm gonna have to go now because I'm getting so stuffed up not that you need to know that but I did show up and I will speak to you all next week don't forget Soltec Soul is officially open today come and join us in that group you can find it on Facebook and there is a free gift in there for anyone joining in December so take care everyone and I will speak to you all next week. Happy days